I was introduced into blogging by a friend of mine. He saw
my potential (I guess) after reading the poems I wrote when I was 12 years old.
Okay, he read that 2 yrs back, not when I was 12 yrs old (I wish I had met him
then). An ignorant as I am, I asked him ‘How?’ He educated me about it and I
was clueless as to what to write and posted my
first poem straight away. I knew
he used to blog and I had liked his blog because he had his own style and a way
of presenting. I do not know if it related to blogging (in one way it did
relate, he had used blog as a means to convey his feelings for me
here) or not
but I eventually fell for the same person and coincidentally he also did and we
got married. So what I ultimately wanted to say is that my husband is a
blogger. Now you may ask what the big deal about this is. I just thought about
listing the pros and cons of having a blogger husband. Let me go with the good
things first.
Merits of having a blogger husband:
1. If you get any appreciation or page views shoot
up, he will genuinely appreciate you for that. If he was not into blogging, he
would not have known how it feels when you actually get appreciation from
someone you do not know in person (especially if that person is a good
blogger), when you see 150-200 people viewing your page per day, and see the
increasing list of comments for every post of yours.
2. When you are about to publish your new post, you
can get a review from him on how the post is and you will get his perspective about
the post and the topic. He will tell you the flaws so that you can improve.
3. He will understand you when he discovers you are
addicted to blogging.
4. He will never say ‘Don’t you have anything to
speak about other than blogging?’
5. He will join you when you get excited that one
of the India’s top bloggers has started to follow your blog.
6. He will tell you about that blogger who writes
in yet another different style which is quite interesting.
7. If I see a gadget in someone’s blog and I want
it in my blog, all I have to do is jump from my place and say ‘I want this
gadget I want this gadget’ like a kid says when he sees ice cream. Given that
all men are gadget freaks, it will be on my blog the next time I see it.
8. If there is a blogging contest, it will be fun
as both of us will plot differently and participate and analyze each other’s
post. When it is time to vote, I am very sure that I will get at least one vote
(if you know what I mean J ).
9. You get
to know what he really really thinks about you. For example, my husband has
written about
our wedding and how he fell in
love and how much courage he had
worked upon to propose me. Actually that was the time when I discovered there
was a lot more to it than how much I knew about his feelings.
10. If you get frustrated about some system or
government or attitude of some people and speak about it genuinely, he will
point out that it can be a good topic for your next post and you will realize
that it had really never crossed my mind.
11. If you are dating a blogger (or for that matter
you meet some blogger through matrimonial sites and the like) then you can get
to know more about him through his blog. For example, what he opinion is about
woman, career for a married woman, society, caste discrimination and the like.
You will, therefore, get a little idea of how your life will be if you get
married to him.
12. Bloggers usually have a good sense of humour or
a good way of framing and presenting thoughts.
13. They will usually have the heart to appreciate
someone else’s good work.
14. A large number of bloggers are extremely
romantic.
15. There’s a great chance that he will be really
talented in poetry, photography and/or painting.
Demerits of having a blogger husband:
1. Sometimes you have to compromise on the topics. For
me it is not that difficult as he finds my topics high fundu. But at times even
I get to face this. For example, there is this 3 year old gal who is on the
roadside in front of my house and she is walking on a rope to entertain people.
We felt bad seeing her and I asked my husband to go and give her some money. He
went there and learnt that the man who was playing the drums is her father. Her
mother was also there, collecting the money people gave and holding another
kid. This meant that the family of four was surviving at the expense of the 3
year old girl’s rope walking job. After he went to give the girl the money, I
thought I should write about this in my blog. He came back and he said he wants
to write about it in his blog. Now someone has to compromise. This time I compromised
as I felt he was keen about writing it.
2. Most of the time you get praises from him for
your posts. So you tend to start getting suspicious if he genuinely liked them
or he’s saying that because he loves you.
3. There is a great chance that both of you will fight
for the laptop to write articles. Most of the bloggers are very slow writers. At
times you wish you had a different laptop. And if he is a computer games addict
then you will get frustrated.
4. It is a bit irritating when he chooses to write
something in a gal’s perspective. It does look a bit artificial because guys
can never actually think that way. Even though you find lots of mistakes, you
can’t help appreciating his effort. So you say it is great but at the same
time, you end up telling him not to write in a girl’s perspective anymore.
5. If you are on the sensitive side, it gets real
bad when he writes something really gory, ruthless or narrates something deeply
about topics like rape or some sort of too much violence.
Okay. Now may be because it is my husband whom I am speaking about, I did not expect I would write a lot of merits compared to the demerits. But this is it. If you have more to it, then do let me know.
