Sunday, July 31, 2011

Blogger husband


I was introduced into blogging by a friend of mine. He saw my potential (I guess) after reading the poems I wrote when I was 12 years old. Okay, he read that 2 yrs back, not when I was 12 yrs old (I wish I had met him then). An ignorant as I am, I asked him ‘How?’ He educated me about it and I was clueless as to what to write and posted my first poem straight away. I knew he used to blog and I had liked his blog because he had his own style and a way of presenting. I do not know if it related to blogging (in one way it did relate, he had used blog as a means to convey his feelings for me here) or not but I eventually fell for the same person and coincidentally he also did and we got married. So what I ultimately wanted to say is that my husband is a blogger. Now you may ask what the big deal about this is. I just thought about listing the pros and cons of having a blogger husband. Let me go with the good things first.

Merits of having a blogger husband:
1. If you get any appreciation or page views shoot up, he will genuinely appreciate you for that. If he was not into blogging, he would not have known how it feels when you actually get appreciation from someone you do not know in person (especially if that person is a good blogger), when you see 150-200 people viewing your page per day, and see the increasing list of comments for every post of yours.
2. When you are about to publish your new post, you can get a review from him on how the post is and you will get his perspective about the post and the topic. He will tell you the flaws so that you can improve.
3. He will understand you when he discovers you are addicted to blogging.
4. He will never say ‘Don’t you have anything to speak about other than blogging?’
5. He will join you when you get excited that one of the India’s top bloggers has started to follow your blog.
6. He will tell you about that blogger who writes in yet another different style which is quite interesting.
7. If I see a gadget in someone’s blog and I want it in my blog, all I have to do is jump from my place and say ‘I want this gadget I want this gadget’ like a kid says when he sees ice cream. Given that all men are gadget freaks, it will be on my blog the next time I see it.
8. If there is a blogging contest, it will be fun as both of us will plot differently and participate and analyze each other’s post. When it is time to vote, I am very sure that I will get at least one vote (if you know what I mean J ).
9. You get to know what he really really thinks about you. For example, my husband has written about our wedding and how he fell in love and how much courage he had worked upon to propose me. Actually that was the time when I discovered there was a lot more to it than how much I knew about his feelings.
10. If you get frustrated about some system or government or attitude of some people and speak about it genuinely, he will point out that it can be a good topic for your next post and you will realize that it had really never crossed my mind. 
11. If you are dating a blogger (or for that matter you meet some blogger through matrimonial sites and the like) then you can get to know more about him through his blog. For example, what he opinion is about woman, career for a married woman, society, caste discrimination and the like. You will, therefore, get a little idea of how your life will be if you get married to him.
12. Bloggers usually have a good sense of humour or a good way of framing and presenting thoughts.
13. They will usually have the heart to appreciate someone else’s good work.
14.  A large number of bloggers are extremely romantic.
15. There’s a great chance that he will be really talented in poetry, photography and/or painting.


Demerits of having a blogger husband:
1. Sometimes you have to compromise on the topics. For me it is not that difficult as he finds my topics high fundu. But at times even I get to face this. For example, there is this 3 year old gal who is on the roadside in front of my house and she is walking on a rope to entertain people. We felt bad seeing her and I asked my husband to go and give her some money. He went there and learnt that the man who was playing the drums is her father. Her mother was also there, collecting the money people gave and holding another kid. This meant that the family of four was surviving at the expense of the 3 year old girl’s rope walking job. After he went to give the girl the money, I thought I should write about this in my blog. He came back and he said he wants to write about it in his blog. Now someone has to compromise. This time I compromised as I felt he was keen about writing it.
2. Most of the time you get praises from him for your posts. So you tend to start getting suspicious if he genuinely liked them or he’s saying that because he loves you.
3. There is a great chance that both of you will fight for the laptop to write articles. Most of the bloggers are very slow writers. At times you wish you had a different laptop. And if he is a computer games addict then you will get frustrated.
4. It is a bit irritating when he chooses to write something in a gal’s perspective. It does look a bit artificial because guys can never actually think that way. Even though you find lots of mistakes, you can’t help appreciating his effort. So you say it is great but at the same time, you end up telling him not to write in a girl’s perspective anymore.
5. If you are on the sensitive side, it gets real bad when he writes something really gory, ruthless or narrates something deeply about topics like rape or some sort of too much violence.

Okay. Now may be because it is my husband whom I am speaking about, I did not expect I would write a lot of merits compared to the demerits. But this is it. If you have more to it, then do let me know. 

21 comments:

Jidhu Jose said...

Preethy, U researched a lot. nice yaar.

I will try to find a blogger girl for my future partner

Preethika Shenoy Padiyar said...

thanks jidhu :) all the best...

Shobhit said...

:-)

That was a wonderful and interesting compilation. Has he read it yet ? :D

Preethika Shenoy Padiyar said...

yeah Shobhit, he did not let me publish it before reading it himself... :) Thanks a lot...

Devidas S Maller said...

Did u get this reviewed by your hubby before posting?? :P :P

Good analysis though, and since i am following both your blogs, its even more interesting to read the demerits! :D :D
2,3,4 demerits are the best :P

Deepak Bhakta said...

Awesome Post...

Game freak is the best part...
Since i am one... ill be avoiding a gal who blogs... and in the same time.. lookin at the long list of merits... i hope i marry the one who blogs :D

Nice post though... well narrated...
thumbs up pritz.. :)

Preethika Shenoy Padiyar said...

@ Devi: :) yeah as I said, he read it first and let me publish... thanks :) Din expect u to like the demerits more...

@ Bhakthu: Thanks a lot :) About the game freak, yeah it will be difficult even if u or she is not a blogger...

Bhavna said...

thats too good...my hubby does nto take much interestis in my blogs hehe....well whatever merits you have mentioned i get to do that with my friend who is a blogger too....its always good to have blogger friends around.....you feel good and don't run over stupid topics....good post

sowmya said...

demerits :D

tiny sunny arguments makes life stronger & closer enough

well written nice to read !
keep smiling :)

Purba said...

I don't have a husband who blogs but he patiently listens to endless stories of my highs and lows. He doesn't have a choice, does he?

And is this post a hint that you need your own laptop :p

Sujatha Sathya said...

wow this was extensive!
hmmmmm.
now now does this make me happy or sad that Sathya isnt a blogger nor a writer (of anything) or even a reader (again of anything)....hmmmmm....dunno why but i am just plain relieved!!
mostly coz of point 3 (cons). if he were into blogging too, n dominated d comp, we'd end up fighting a hell of a lot. coz m toooo impatient (once m in mood to write i HAVE to write) n once he sits on d system, he SITS.

i loved, among the pros,
point # 9 coz oh i'd luv 2 know it coz Sathya is so so ...wats d word ? introvert? unexpressive? silent?
point # 4: OHH YAAA i've had to hear dat a lot
point # 1: :((( true Preeti...wish wish wish
point # 13: so sweet. i've felt dat goodwill among fellow bloggers n m always touched by it

And totally surprised with point # 14. really?? really??

Preethika Shenoy Padiyar said...

@ Bhavna, Soumya: Thank you :)

@ Purba: He he... :) may be :) :P

@ Sujatha: :) Thanks.. And about the Point #14, for me it is true... ;)

Sneha Sunny said...

wow,,,,,,, both husband and wife have linked each others blog in their blog..... so you got one more merit.....you can promote your spouse's blog in yours....lol...:-).... I didn't knew that the one about whom sunil is talking is also here on blogger. I actually found your blog in his blog.....;-) that's a merit... I liked your list....you can understand it as your husband is a blogger.....

Thanks for sharing your feelings!!! Loved the post...

Preethika Shenoy Padiyar said...

@ Sneha Sunny:
Oh yeah :) How can I forget that... :) But it is limited... I cant keep promoting him in every post... Only if it is suitable... :)
Thanks for coming to my blog from his... :) I am happy you liked the post... :) :)

Sunil Padiyar said...

Well, what can I say? :)

Interesting research BTW. :) ;)

Preethika Shenoy Padiyar said...

@ Sunil: At least say something about the laptop.. :P And about the research, thanks to u... :)

SUB said...

lol...:)
lots of research there...

Spicy Sweet said...

Well, this is good analysis.
Why don't you link up the article your husband has written beautifully about the girl. You can give some publicity ladY! :)

Liked your post!

Preethika Shenoy Padiyar said...

@ Subrashis: :) Just time pass..

@ Spicy Sweet: Thank u... When I had written this post, he had not written about the gal... I have done a lot of publicity of his posts in this post already... :) Yeah he has written it really well... :)

Ben said...

Couldn't have put it better myself, my fiancée actually got me into blogging again and it definitely has it's pro's and con's having a partner that blogs :)

Nicely researched post! keep it up!

Preethika Shenoy Padiyar said...

Thank u Ben... :)

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